The Softness Strategy: How to Set Boundaries & Choose Yourself Without Guilt
Why Black Women Must Redefine Self-Love
For Black women, love has often been tied to sacrifice. We’ve been taught that to love is to give endlessly, show up for everyone, and keep pouring, no matter how empty we feel.
But what happens when we give from an empty cup?
We end up:
- Overcommitted in relationships, work, and friendships
- Exhausted from always being the “strong one”
- Feeling guilty for choosing ourselves
💡 Softness is not just a feeling, it’s a boundary. It’s a strategy for self-preservation.
The Softness Strategy isn’t about neglecting others. It’s about choosing yourself first, so you have the energy to pour into what truly matters. ☁🤎
🌿 If you struggle with this, you’re not alone. It’s something I help my coaching clients navigate every day. Keep reading for practical ways to start setting boundaries without guilt.